Thursday, January 5, 2012

Wishes For My Now Seven Year Old Daughter

Lucy,

Please continue to love what you love, even if it's not popular. Don't let society tell you what to like and not like. It's a waste of time because in my experience society is either way off base or just plain stupid. I'm so glad you chose a Sonic cake this year. It doesn't matter if he's an old character and none of the other little girls love him or even know who he is. You do, and that's what matters. If someone has a problem with that, screw 'em. And I give you permission to say that.

I hope that spaghetti remains your favorite food for the rest of your life. You may not always be able to afford Nutella or fancy cheese, but chances are you'll always be able to afford spaghetti. It's a gift to find something you love that is also affordable.

Hold on to the friends who will take the time to make you a hand made gift.

Please don't stop singing and humming. I love how there is always a tune in your head.
Always remain as strong willed and stubborn as you are today. Sure it annoys me now, but those are traits that will get you what you want out of life. At the very least, people will submit to your will out of sheer exhaustion.

Right now, at seven years old, you see yourself as this totally adorable, smart, cool chick. And that's accurate. But pretty soon, sooner than I would probably like, there are going to be people who will try to tell you that you aren't cool or cute or smart. To those people, I say a loud fuck you.

And I give you permission to say that too.

20 comments:

Margaret (Peggy or Peg too) said...

Oh Tammie that was beautiful.

Would you adopt me please?

Happy Birthday Lucy. You are pretty damn cute!!

Not Hannah said...

I wish I could personally give you a squeeze right now. Heck yeah, lady.

Nowheymama said...

OK, I know I'm emotional right now, but this made me think of my own Cars-Mario Bros.-'boy'-costume-wearing-party-having girl and cry. Preach it, sister.

Hotch Potchery said...

My 7 year old used to wear jumpers that my mom would make out of Goosebumps material---I think she would now too. One great thing of rearing a strong willed girl---but then again, they drive you to drink getting there!!

daniel j. taylor said...

Stumbled upon your blog following the ever-tempting "next blog" link atop these pages, and I love this so much. It's so important for people (kids, especially) to know that it's acceptable to be totally themself.
I'm not a parent, though I hope to be one day, and sometimes I find myself running down the bits of wisdom I've collected so far so I can hand them down the line. My dad handed some to me, and my favorites were always about fighting:
-Hit him first, and make it count.
-You're not a pussy if you have to use your feet.
-Eyes, Nose, Mouth, Nuts.
Thanks dad.

When my own time comes, I sort of hope my sermons sound as sincere and poetic as yours.

Jaime said...

First, your daughter is just beautiful. Next, I love this post. You are the kind of mom I wish the kids I work with had. If so, they'd grow up to be confident, embrace life and be happy. Finally, I wish everyone could be themselves. Both my husband and I don't care what people think. If they don't like us, we tell them to go hang out with another couple. I guarantee they won't have as much fun.

~ The Jolly Bee ~ said...

Yeah Tammie! You put it so well. I particularly love the part about things that annoy you (the mom) now are things that will serve Lucy well in the future.

I write this after I put my daughter on a plane (to Florida) on Tuesday and she stood her ground when some old guy refused to give her the seat she was ticketed for. She politely, but firmly told him that the seat in question was hers and she had every intention of sitting there. That stubborn attitude used to drive me crazy -- but it will get these girls of ours where they want to go.

Happy birthday to your girl.

Maria Rose said...

OH I wish those same things for my girl. Well said!

Carla said...

Awesome post! Very well said and hopefully she reads it someday. Sierra had a boy tell her she was a bad girl while we were at the park today. She mentioned it several times after so I told her next time someone says a mean thing just laugh at them. (fuck you seems more fitting but perhaps unappreciated once she'd in school) She liked that advice.
Happy birthday to Lucy!!!

Tammie said...

peggy: i will not adopt you because i was hoping YOU would adopt ME!

heather: and i would squeeze you (and your polka dot panties)right back.

nowhey: lucy loves mario too! our gals would get along quite well i think.

hotch: yes, the drinking has begun. and im having fun picturing Goosebumps material.

daniel: thank you so much for the kind words! and your dad's advice sounds pretty good to me. (also, congrats on clicking the 'next blog' button and getting something in english. i usually end up at something in japanese or some other language i cant decipher.)

jaime: thank you. i wish i could hang out with you and your hubs. and i wish that when i was younger someone had told me that i was ok the way i was. i didnt hear it often enough.

jody: way to go kathe!

maria: thank you! i wish them for your girl too. i think as long as we keep on them, our girls will be ok. :)

Tammie said...

carla: have you ever seen the show Little Bill? it used to be on a lot when my son was younger. in one episode someone is saying mean things to Little Bill and his dad advises him to reply with a simple "so." the mean kid would call little bill a name and he'd just look at him, smile, and say, "so." i guess that is another polite way to avoid saying fuck you. :)

Meyser said...

That's a beautiful wish for a beautiful daughter.

Daphne said...

Amazing, awesome post for a totally amazing, awesome little girl who cracks me up every time I see her. And I LOVE the cake!!

DysFUNctional Mom said...

*standing ovation*
She reminds me a lot of my youngest.
And anyone who doesn't know who Sonic is, is a loser.

Visty said...

Whoever did that cake did a rockin job!! Happy Birthday to L! We need to hang out more. The more you post, the more I want to show up at your door. And can I just say? Your husband actually waving to me from the car the other night when all he had to do was sit and wait? That was beyond cool.

Liesl said...

Any gal who likes Sonic is cool in my book! Happy Birthday, Lucy!

Run Lori Run said...

It is sad that we have to toughen them up and prepare them for all the assholes out there that will tell them they're stupid or uncool but that is the world we live in. I love this post! Amen sista!

hester said...

Tammie - you're such a beautiful savvy mother. And your Lucy sounds and looks amazing. (And thanks for reminding me that Greta's iron will is a good thing!)

And how do I get a "next blog" thing on my page?

Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday Lucy! You are cute as a button!

kraftykash said...

All I can say is that this brought tears to my eyes. And one more thing...how is she already 7?!?!?!?!