Thursday, October 14, 2010

A Few Thoughts on Blogging

*We are almost half way through NaBloWriMo and I'm running out of things to say. Although, I'm going to do everything to keep it from happening, don't be surprised if I miss a day soon.

*Not Hannah did a post yesterday about some of her thoughts on NaBloWriMo thus far and one of the things she mentioned, which I've observed too, is that the amount of comments we've been getting has gone way down. My readership has gotten better and I've picked up a few more followers, but the comments aren't always there to back it up. I mean, I understand why this is because the amount of comments I've been leaving has gone down too, since I just can't spend all day on the computer. I do think this is sort of a sad side effect to blogging every day. I love the challenge of writing on a daily basis and the fact that more people are reading the silliness that I put here, but I miss the daily connections that I'm able to make with all of "my people." That's kind of why I blog in the first place.

*I've been blogging since February of 2008 and in that time I've seen a lot of bloggers come and go, especially recently. It seems like everyone is having babies, starting new jobs, in new relationships, or just so busy with the crap that life is throwing at them that they have no time for blogging anymore. Again, I understand why this is, but it makes me sad. Then I start to thinking about how much longer I can keep this up. I'm sure that when I go back to work, there will be less posting, but as it is now, I can't imagine not having my blog. It's such a huge part of me.

*Which brings me to my final thought: I've made a couple of new friends lately. Women I really enjoy being with and feel comfortable around. We've even exchanged phone numbers and email addresses. (This is a big step for me.) So now my question is, Do I tell them about the blog? It was never an issue with other real life friends because they either had or read blogs already, so it seemed like a natural thing to bring up. But I don't know if these women have blogs or read them. Now, it doesn't seem like something that will ever really come up, but on the other hand, since my blog is such a huge part of who I am, to not tell them seems like I'm keeping a secret. Do you discuss your blog with your 'real life' friends?


Nowheymama said...

Yes, I am a blog slacker. You caught me. :)

~ The Jolly Bee ~ said...

I don't really share my blog with real life friends. Only a handful know and only one friend at work. I definitely don't want to co-mingle those two things in my life (not that I ever rant about my job, but....let's just say there are days I could!).

I guess I just want a space that's my own and I don't want to temper my thoughts or make excuses for anything to anyone.

You don't really have to bring it up....If you mention in passing something about your blog or blogging in general and they show an interest, why not divulge it? Unless you're like me and want to hold it near and dear and not feel critiqued.

kraftykash said...

Tammie- This is a great post. I find myself getting caught up in all the real life drama and not wanting to go on my blog and bitch about the day to day stuff, so I just dont blog. By not looking at my blog, I put it in the back of my head and then forget to check other peoples blogs. I love reading yours. I miss talking to you and think about you all alot :)

As for your new friends, if the topic of hobbies or interests comes up, tell them about your blog. You have some great stuff on here.

Tammie said...

nowhey: i never thought of you as a slacker. i know you have your hands full and stay very busy. but you're still missed around these parts. :)

jodi: hmm...interesting points you make. i do think that if i ever do bring it up, it will be after a bit more time, just to make sure these are the types of gals i dont mind letting it all hang out with.

kash: i WISH you would bitch about the day to day stuff. i miss you.

sitting on the mood swing at the playground said...

I've only told a couple of my real life friends about my blog. Not sure why but I keep it to myself and now it feels too late to share.

Margaret (Peggy or Peg too) said...

great post and great question.
I have only told some.

Haleine said...

My friends know about my blog. Some of them read it but not on a regular basis. A few of my family members read my blog, including my mother, so that means I often times have to watch what I'm saying. This is a bummer but I persevere.

I did not tell any of my co-workers about my blog but mostly because I sometimes suggest unflattering things about them.

Angela said...

My IRL friends are a combination of bloggers and non, all of them know about my blog. Whether they read it or not I just don't know.

I am not involved with the blogging daily thing because I have always done a daily post. It does get difficult at time when you run out of things to say. To combat that, I do a lot of pre-writing and set my posts to publish one a day. Sometimes I can think of 2 or 3 topics to keep that flow going. Then when I have no topic to talk about, I am covered. Right now I have about 5 days worth waiting to be published.

Comments are tricky. I am really BAD about leaving comments but I try to at least once a day on a different blog post.

Karen said...

I link to my blog in my facebook profile. Most of my real life friends are aware of it. But I don't spill my heart out on the blog, so making it public is not such a big deal for me.

Jessie said...

I've struggled with this too. I've deleted blogs because I let my friends know where they were.

I keep two now. One for the good and one for the bad.

Daphne said...

I mention my blog in passing and if people want the address, I give it to them; otherwise, I don't worry about it. But new friends = awesome!

Seems like blogland shifts every so often. I've had a blog in one form or another since... 2006?! Crazy. (the first two incarnations are trashed -- too awful). I don't have a very big readership and I guess that's because i don't have time to read/comment on tons of people's blogs, but I do have a nice little circle of blog friends that I try really hard to keep up with. (or, I'm just really, really boring and you guys are just really nice to leave comments despite my boringness)

Um, what was my point? Oh yeah: your blog is awesome, and keep it up! As much as you want to. :)

Tammie said...

mag: i do think there is a window. if i dont say something about it within the few months of friendship, then it seems weird to bring it up later.

haleine; yes! i definitely think you should keep your blog a secret from your co workers! but i love it when you bitch about them.

angela: i know another gal who blogs everyday too and honestly i dont know how you people do it.

karen: yeah, i do spill my guts here sometimes so i have to be careful about who i share it all with. which is silly really since this is all public and anyone could find it anyway if they tried hard enough.

jessie: yeah, i dont want to regret sgaring.

daphne: ive definitely noticed a shift lately. off the top of my head i can count 8 ladies from my inner circle who are too busy to blog anymore. (again, no judgements of them, they're just missed. and i just sort of naively thought they'd always be 'around'.)

and of course you arent boring!!!

Dani said...

I think there are ebbs and flows with bloggers. I see it in the comments, etc. I'm in an ebb right now...I don't feel like I have much to write about. That will change, I'm sure. But right now, I'm riding the wave.

Most of my friends know about my blog because it's fed through my facebook. If someone doesn't know, I will make some self-deprecating comment about my rock & roll life and the fact that I have *such* exciting things to write about. If they are interested they will ask more, if not then it goes unnoticed.

I've had parents at school Google my name and it pops up. That's why there are certain things I don't write about...I figure anything that I put out there, I should assume my principal, students' parents, my parents, and the little old ladies at church are reading. It better not be to freaky.

kat said...

I really do love reading your blog. Both your rants and falling in love with the Pacific North West. But I rarely leave a comment.Sometimes it is kinda like sneaking a peak in someone's diary, you just don't mention it!
signed the Lurker.

mandy said...

this to tell about your blog or not question is a big one for me...but only since we moved.
in philly it was totally fine. i would tell someone i had met about my blog and they check it out and are like that's so cool. here it's weird and has totally made me question if i should have a blog at all...people get real standoffish and weird and pull the 'you are such a good mom card' which makes me crazy uncomfortable.
but the middle of the middle is proving to be hard to have a real conversation with anyone about anything.
one day i said the innocent word 'pressure cooker' at library hour and it was like i had a horn coming out of my head.
i'd imagine in portland, like in philly, there is a diverse group of opinionated smart women to hang out with and they will totally dig reading your blog and being your 'real' friend too.

Run Lori Run said...

I don't usually blog about my day job but I still don't share my blog with my coworkers. I prefer to keep them separate... And I have told my close friends about my blog but most don't read it regularly. But they just aren't bloggers, they prefer facebook!

Aleta said...

It's hard to visit that many blogs every day, but I'm making the rounds on a regular beat. I do miss reading your blog more often, though. Love the look!

I wish I NEVER shared my blog with IRL folks. OMG, they are so demanding! They tell me what they think I should write about (which I don't) or they say what I shouldn't write about (which I try to adhere to, but really, that's annoying).

Then, when I don't write for a while, because they have annoyed me, then they start harassing me about why I haven't blogged in a while!

Do yourself a favor - keep IRL OUT of your blog!! I love my IRL family/friends - but if I knew they would react like that, I'd have kept it private. I considered a private blog, but that's just not me. :)

Not Hannah said...

Aleta: YES! One of my bros in particular hounds me about writing if I miss a day or two. And one of my (very conservative) cousins linked to my blog on his Facebook account and described me as "upbeat" and "full of laughter." Which...what? I mean, I'm happy and all that most of the time, but it made me feel like I wasn't getting my point across if that's how he described me.

Tammie: My "old" friends know about the blog, but most "new" friends (the two or three of them)don't. It makes me feel like I'm fishing if I mention it. At the same time, I've noticed that I count on my online friends to be part of my community more and more these days. The disconnect I feel right now is really tough for me, although I look forward to making new friends through NaBloWriMo. I've often thought about starting up a forum for the folks I've met online who have formed the community I'm talking about...but wonder if it would be too personal. Does that make any sense?

craftytammie said...

i've been blogging since 2005, and i can't imagine not doing it. but i find myself slacking off more and more on my family blog, and writing more on my craft blog. it seems silly to have two, but my family isn't interested in my crafty endeavors and my crafty friends probably don't want to hear about every milestone. plus i'm sharing so much more with friends/family on facebook and it's easier, less time consuming. i keep wondering how much longer i'll be able to keep it up.

please don't you stop blogging though! i always love reading what you write!

hester said...

As usual, I am commenting a bit late but this was a really interesting post. I feel a bit sad that I can't find the time/energy to keep posting on my blog. Most days, even taking photos and uploading them is beyond me. But I still love checking in to your blog and reading what you are up to. The thing I miss most of all is interacting with the few loyal bloggy friends I had made.

You definitely have a much loved blog with loyal readers, even if we don't always comment. Sometimes, I write a lengthy comment and then realise that the word verification isn't showing up so I have to refresh the page and start again. All too frustrating.

victoria said...

Very interesting topic!! I thought I was the only one!! I do not like real life people knowing about my blog. It cramps my writing almost immediately. I feel like I will offend everyone if I write about certain topics. For example I gave it to my hubby's best friend who is a gigantic conservative and a fan of the South. I felt like I couldn't rant about where we lived without offending him. It's where he lives and is bringing up his children ... I felt it would be hurtful to talk about why I would never bring my children up there or how it was the most boring, soulless place on earth to live. He checks it often for pictures and family updates.

Also, my midwifery found it and posted a link on their website. Now I feel like I have to keep talking about babies and pregnancy. I feel like I have to document my next pregnancy again in detail and keep to that subject for them. And, again, I feel like I can only say great things about the area.

I've actually thought about starting yet another blog! but, I don't know, I think I'll just keep the one I have and try to find my way. I still don't have a direction for it, really. I get ideas, but then they sort of get lost. Still working it out.

Lia said...

I told a few of my closest friends at work and I kind of wish I hadn't. They don't bug me about it or anything and they don't really read it, but I just wish they didn't know. I also wish I hadn't told my family. Actually, I only told my husband and then he blabbed to his mom and my mom. Which means I can't complain about them, as I sometimes want to.

I haven't been able to keep up with blog reading or writing lately at all. And I've actually been much happier, since I've started ignoring my reader and blog. I told Dani the other day that I think I'm done with blogs. I'm thinking about it anyway.