Recently I read a couple of posts about siblings (here and here) over on Neurotic, Yet Classy. As I read about the author's experiences growing up with brothers, I felt sad. As a young girl, I always wanted an older brother. Someone to watch out for me at school or give me brotherly advice. For a while I even fantasized about my imaginary older brother, he was sorta like Scott Baio from Charles in Charge. He always had all the answers and would stop at nothing to keep me out of trouble.
As an adult-an only child adult-I would love to have a brother or a sister. There are so many times that I wish I had a partner in crime with whom to compare notes about what it was like growing up in our family. I'm always a little jealous when my husband calls his sister and as soon as she picks up the phone he asks, "Do you remember the time.....?" And almost immediately she knows exactly what he's talking about and usually adds some little tidbit from her own memory bank and the next thing I know they're taking another trip down memory lane.
I have no such lifeline to my past. Sure, there are my parents, but they saw things through the eyes of adults. Adults who were busy with jobs and bills and their own lives. This isn't to say they were bad people, it's just the nature of adulthood to not always be bothered with the little things that seem so monumental to children. So I have to rely on my own memory and my own perspective.
As I watch my own children, I'm so glad that they have each other. Sure they fight and argue and at times it gets so loud that I want to stab myself in the ear just to make it all go away. (Is it possible that this inability to deal with noise comes from being an only child? Hmmm....) But ultimately, they get along well and I know that their relationship will only get better as time goes on and that they'll always be a part of each others lives. Even if for no other reason than to talk about me and their father.
What was your sibling situation? Are you close to your siblings now? Is anyone else out there an only child?