Monday, January 18, 2010

Random Thoughts

Just some quick randomness this morning:

*I've tried to read 3 different books since finishing The Pilot's Wife. (Life of Pi, The Diary of Ellen Rimbaur, Love in the Time of Cholera.) None of these books held my attention and I've ended up tossing them to the side. I think The Pilot's Wife was so good that it ruined me for other books momentarily. Fortunately, I was (finally) able to get my hands on a copy of The Time Traveler's Wife and so far I'm loving it. Another library score was Atonement, but I still can't seem to find Outlander, and I've been to three different branches of my library. I'm starting to think the women of my town are hoarding this book.

*In other book related news, I've finished my write up for The Lovely Bones and I'm thinking the Open Discussion will be on Monday, February 1st. Ultimately, I had mixed feelings about this book and I can't wait to discuss it with all of you.

*Last night Jay and I were having a discussion about short men, which was prompted by another discussion we have quite regularly about Tina Fey's husband. To the best of my knowledge, (which is based solely on entertainment websites so take it for what it's worth), Tina Fey's husband is a full inch shorter than she is. She's only five foot four and a half.I assume she's wearing heels in the above photo.

He's a perfectly good looking man with nice blue eyes and a decent head of hair and together they make an adorable couple. But I just couldn't be with a shorter man. I like to feel like a wee dainty petite flower and I wouldn't feel that way with someone smaller than myself. So then Jay posed the following question: Assuming all other things are equal (intelligence, personality, other areas of attractiveness, etc...) would you rather be with someone significantly fatter than you or significantly shorter than you?

Me personally, I'm going with fatter. Your thoughts? When choosing a partner do you have other weird hang ups that would automatically eliminate someone?

31 comments:

Crystal said...

Fatter or shorter? Ugh. I don't know. I am totally with you about feeling like a dainty flower. Who wants to feel like a hulk with your man?

The Time Travelers Wife! One of my favorite books!! I loved it and wept when it ended. I really hope you enjoy it as much as I did. I have been reading Shroud for a Nightingale by P.D. James and it has been slooow reading. Not a bad book just not highly exciting.

Jenny said...

I'm with you on this one - they've got to be AT LEAST the same height as me. I just couldn't do it. And, about the fatter thing...they can always lose weight. :)

~ The Jolly Bee ~ said...

Just a heads up on "The Lovely Bones" -- my daughter read it as soon as I finished it. So, maybe I'll add the perspective of a 16-year-old to the discussion as well. If that's ok. And, no comment on physical attributes of a spouse (this may come back to haunt me). Have a great MLK Day!

R.H. Ducky said...

it took me like 6 months to read Love in the Time of Cholera. i kept putting it down, and then i felt guilty about not finishing, so i would go back to it. i didn't hate the story...i just had a hard time reading it for some reason.

as far as the taller/shorter thing. when i dated men, i refused to date anyone shorter than me. BUT i prefer shorter women. i don't really care about weight.

Tammie said...

crystal: im LOVING the time travelers wife. its all i can do stop reading it to pay attention to the children.

jenny: my thoughts exactly, weight can be lost but height cant be gained.

jolly: of course thats ok! the more the merrier. i would love to hear the teen perspective.

ducky: interesting. and weight isnt really an issue for me either, although i dont know if i could date a man who was super skinny, but honestly you dont come across that too much.

im glad im not the only one who had trouble with Love in the time of Cholera. i felt really guilty not finishing it too but i just was not into it. maybe ill try and revisit it later.

Karen said...

Shorter. For sure. My husband and I are the same height (5'6") and that works well for me. I don't like burliness.

Crystal mentioned PD James, which I think you might enjoy if you're into wordy british mysteries (which I totally am, so that's an endorsement).

Margaret (Peggy or Peg too) said...

....tee hee this cracked me up!
Never shorter than me because he would be a wee little man and could be on the TLC show Small people if he were shorter than me. I am a whole 5'2" and I'm stretching it to be honest.
(hubby is 6'2")

I love me a tall big man! I'd take bald before short but not stupid before short.

Barefoot_Mommy said...

*laughs* My hubby is 2 inches shorter than me. So I guess that answers that question. Jt never really bothered me very much, but now, having had two babies, I'm fatter than him too. LOL SO I guess I really got the short end of the stick (ah ha ha ha)

Dani said...

I couldn't get through Love in the Tie of Cholera. Didn't hold my attention at all.

Can't wait for The Lovely Bones discussion. One of my most favorite books...along with The Time Traveler's Wife.

I have to be smaller than my man in both height and weight. The Mr. has a lean build and when I was pregnant I was always scared that my weight would be greater than his. So I'd take fatter over shorter.

-SPW said...

I loveeed The Time Travelers Wife. I read it and tried to convince hubby to read it too. He said "it seems like a chick book". Finally one day he emerged from the bathroom (where he does all his best reading) mopey. "Whats wrong" I asked....

"Im sad that that book in the bathroom is done". He had read it front to back in less than a week and hadnt even realized it was the same one I wanted him to read.

p.s. I can't date someone shorter than me either. Definately going with fatter... Im not into thin guys either anyways.

Nowheymama said...

There are used copies of Outlander from $5.86 on Amazon.

I'm just saying.

Tammie said...

karen: interesting. see, i actually prefer burliness.

margaret: your comment had me cracking up. and i agree. id take bald before short as well but wouldnt take stupid at all. id rather be alone than with stupid.

barefoot: no, not at all! there is nothing wrong with a short man, it just isnt my thing. along with about a million other traits that would have me dismissing men. would you like me to list more? lets see....along with short men i'd also reject men who are: blonde (except kiefer sutherland); gynecologists; most republicans; men with weird mothers; men who wear skinny jeans; and certain races entirely.

so as you can tell, im clearly the one with the problem here. if i wasnt lucky enough to find jay when i did, id be very lonely indeed with this very small pool of men to choose from. even if i did manage to find someone i liked, there is no guarantee that he would like me back. especially since most of the male population thinks i have hair like a boy.

dani: that would have been a worry of mine too. we think alike.

im so glad im not the only one who couldnt get through that damn book.

Tammie said...

spw: what is it about men and the bathroom? thats jays favorite Sudoku location.

nowhey: believe me, ive considered it. i may break down and get it soon.

Not Your Aunt B said...

Fatter. I have a thing for tall guys. My husband is 6'3" and I really would love for him to be 6'6" or so. I am sure he would like me to be a size 2 or so too. It's just what I like. Plus if he was fatter, he could work out with me. Versus shorter, well, there's not much you can do about that unless you are Tom Cruise and have special shoes.

I could handle bald, any race/ethnicity, just not STUPID or horribly BAD TEETH. With those I think I would have to be single.

sitting on the mood swing at the playground said...

I'm 5'4" (give or take) and dated a shorter guy for awhile. I think I was surprised he was shorter. I thought he was such a great guy I think I pegged him for 5'11" or so. As a rule, I like tall guys. Donnie's about 6'1". I don't think weight would bother me.

We read Love in the Time of Cholera for book group and ALL of us slogged through it. We also read Life of Pi and, for me, it didn't live up to the reviews.

Hotch Potchery said...

Teeth and fingernails have to be clean and nice...yuck.

Otherwise I would go with Fatter, not shorter. I actually hope that one day this spring Mr. P will be fatter than me.

Barefoot_Mommy said...

LMAO Tammie. I don't think I could be with a gynocologist either. That was hilarious. Tim is very intelligent and funny, well read, and pretty good at writing too. So he makes up for those two inches!

Tammie said...

barefoot: im glad you had a chuckle. and tim truly sounds like a catch. :)

hester said...

Mmmm...that's a tough one. Scott is 6 foot 4 so it's hard to imagine him being smaller than me. Then again, his growing belly isn't doing a lot for me either. I guess a moderate amount of fat is better than towering over a man. Mind you...I'd be really annoyed if he was having this conversation about me!

I think "Outlander" was published here as "Cross Stitch". Is that the one about the nurse who goes back in time in Scotland? It's a great galloping read that you can really immerse yourself in. If I see a second copy anywhere I'll send it over.

beck said...

Another great post Tammie! I need a tall fella, I been out with both short & tall and in my experience the shorter guys were weirder. More complicated. I'm sure they are not all that way. Someone I once knew had a theory about short men being more controlling and having 'little man syndrome" ie over compensating for their lack o height. Anyway, I ended up with a tall bloke and now I have several tall children too! x

DysFUNctional Mom said...

I read & liked The Pilot's Wife, too. I also read Life of Pi, and I'm glad I did, but I didn't love it like everyone else seems to.
The Lovely Bones was so good, I want to read it again before I see the movie.

Penny said...

I loved The Pilot's Wife, I read it years ago. I never could get into The Life of Pi and I still haven't picked back up The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo.

Oh and FATTER definitely. I'm 5"2 and I honestly don't think I'd ever date a guy shorter than me, But I'd be Ok with fatter since I'd look smaller (as it is I weighed more than my husband until just recently)...

alisha said...

i'm so with you on the short man thing. i couldn't date anyone as talk or chorter than me. i wouldn't feel...protected?

Margaret (Peggy or Peg too) said...

BTW - how does open discussion work on the 1st? time?

Maria Rose said...

My husband is 5'9 (if you ask him) and I am 5'11 and I wear heels. We don't even give it a second thought. I think I would have difficulty being with an overweight man because I would feel as though he didn't care for himself or his health...height can't be changed.

Tammie said...

peggy: no specific time or anything like that, although ill probably post it first thing in the morning since its already written.

it will more or less be just like any other blog post except ill ask a bunch of questions in the post and hopefully people will comment about the book, either answering my questions, or just leaving whatever thoughts they have about the story. my hope is that people will come back throughout the day/week and then comment on other peoples comments, sort of like a discussion at a book club meeting.

Margaret (Peggy or Peg too) said...

I asked my husband last night what his deal breaker would be as we all talked about hee re:short, fat etc. He thought a moment, and only a moment, and then he said, "a man"

Ah, that's my hubby. As long as it's a breathing female he has no issues. Man whore.

Mari said...

Nice smile, must smell good! ha ha - the smell thing again.

Aleta said...

Have you seen the movie the Lovely Bones? Might have posted it elsewhere and I missed it. I want to see it, but might wait until it's out for rent. Movie Theaters are so expensive these days!


I'd go with Fatter too.

Lia said...

I can't believe I didn't comment on this before! I read it laughed out loud and then got distracted by something and forgot to come back. I haven;t read any of those books and don't plan to. Except Time Traveler's Wife. Loved, loved, loved that book. Never saw the movie, though. Don't know if I ever will.

I'd have to choose fatter. I'm only 4' 11" so to choose shorter would be choosing a little person, indeed. But right now, I am both shorter and fatter than my husband and, unfortunately, I don't see that changing anytime soon.

Becky..AMHW said...

I'm 5'10". My husband is 5'8". I'm mostly legs. He's mostly waist. Needless to say there is no action in any standing position.

The height doesn't bother me but I don't think I would like it much if my husband had a smaller butt than I had.