Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Random Thoughts

*In case you were wondering (and I know you all were), Jay and I had a great time at the movies on Christmas day. Jay had bought our movie tickets for the morning show in advance and when we got to the theatre we found out that those tickets had been sold to us by mistake and they technically weren't supposed to show any movies until noon. They let us in anyway and except for two other couples, we had the theatre to ourselves. (As a side note, you can't even mention going to the movies on Christmas Day in this house without someone busting out singing Christmas Time for the Jews.)

*Although I haven't gained weight this holiday season, I haven't lost as much as I would have liked. I haven't weighed myself but judging by how my clothes fit, I think I've probably lost about 3 pounds. Within the coming days I plan on being more mindful about what I shove in my face. More fruits and veggies, less candy and baked goods. I also plan on cutting back on my coffee a bit. Right now I drink close to two pots a day and I can only imagine what it's doing to my insides. Even my afternoon beer has been replaced with a small glass of POM.
*Along that line, Jay and I are giving up cheese for the entire month of January. I'm not thrilled about this but I do feel it needs to be done. He and I have gotten way too used to adding cheese to everything, because really everything is better with cheese.

*I have plenty of reading to do.I'm almost done with The Lovely Bones at which point it will be passed on to Dawn so that she can have it read in time for the Open Discussion in February. I am almost giddy about starting next years reading goal.

*Finally, I want to discuss something of a personal nature with all of you: Have bra designers just completely lost their minds?!? I had to go bra shopping the other day. And yes I do mean HAD TO. I only had a few bras left and they could truly only be considered "bras" in the loosest sense of the word. Literally, my nipple hung out of one. Nice, huh?

Bra shopping has never been my favorite thing because I can't find anything that is understated and pretty, yet supportive. So I hadn't bought a new bra in a long time, maybe two years. When I went into the store on Saturday I was shocked at what I was met with. Everything is either dowdy and ugly, or made with the sole purpose of arousing a lover. And the padding is completely OUT.OF.CONTROL! Without looking at the size, you can't tell a B cup from a D cup because they all look as if they have double D's in them already. Also, I don't need bows all over the place or intricate bead work. I just want a bra that can do its job and still be attractive. It would also be a plus if it didn't cost $50.

In the end, I came home with nothing. I did buy eight bras online from a store I don't normally shop from because I think it's overpriced. I can guarantee at least four will be returned. Does anyone else have bra shopping issues? It can't be just me.

28 comments:

Jessie Earth Momma said...

Are you kidding me?! I have SOOOO been there! Over the last 10 years I've gone to and from (naturally thankyouverymuch) a 34C to a 42DDD (gotta love those nursing breasts) and not one bra to fit any size comfortably. Too much padding; who needs padding on a DDD breast?! Honestly! And the cut? Well half the breast is mandatory to be exposed thus sqooshing out part way and making for a muffin top breast equivalent. WTF? Lately, I've been wearing a strapless underwire bra underneath a sports bra. I get more support that way. Also, it holds the girls in so they don't drag across my clients when I'm giving a deep tissue massage. Cheers!

Tammie said...

JEM: thank you! im so glad im not the only one with these issues. i range anywhere from a 34 B/C to a 36 B/C, (because, ya know of course the sizes arent uniform from brand to brand and its basically a crap shoot) and i rarely find a bra i love and half the time i give up altogether on comfort.

the padding is what gets me the most. everytime i try on a bra with padding i feel like it isnt me. as if i have someone elses boobs on my chest. its completely ridiculous.

Margaret (Peggy or Peg too) said...

Seriously who doesn't have bra shopping issues? I have my whole damn life!!

First off I'm big busted....that is enough said. I have had issues since the 6th grade when I was all of 95lbs and had a C cup already!! Try to find a bra that doesn't look like something your grandmother wears and yet is uplifting and doing it's job.

I was constantly tugging and complaining about my T-shirts or my pulling blouses etc.

So I went to a place last year and was actually "fitted" it was wonderful. I hadn't done that in years and it was soooo worth it. It was my birthday gift that I actually asked for because I knew it was going to cost $$.
I only bought 1 bra. But that 1 bra was way more $50.00. I then came home and went online and found that maker and I slowly but surely have added a couple more in their line in other colors. I do find that the size I wear with this brand is different than another - and that is an important part.

I swear by them. They fit me like a glove and then support me and truth be told I forget I'm wearing it and that alone is something when you've got DD's. (or E's in this brand because they are European)

So that is my recommendation. Get fitted properly by a bra specialist in a bra store not Macy's. Be sure you are truly wearing the right size and get a good bra. Then you can find it online later in another color and size.

You'll be thanking me really! Now it's so much easier for me and it only took about 40 yrs.

Tammie said...

peggy: interesting.
if you dont mind divulging the info, where did you get fitted? the only place i can think of around here that does that is victorias secret and they always miss the mark with me. i dont like most of their stuff and even when i have bought from them, their sizes arent uniform even within their own brand, which is insane.

but yes, macys sucks. that was where i went on saturday. no fun was had.

Daphne said...

Ugh. Bras. I have to face the fact that I need to buy a new T-shirt bra (the kind I wear most often). I am a really hard-to-find size (32 DD or DDD) so I just order them online from FigLeaves since they have a good return/exchange policy. And they are never cheap. A good place to get measured is Bloomingdales, if you have any near you. Don't go to Victoria's Secret -- they wanted to tell me that a 34D would fit me fine (it doesn't) simply because they don't actually carry my size! But boy does it make a difference when you have the right one! Worth the cost, in my opinion (although I always choose the cheapest acceptable one).

I have to give up cheese (and all dairy, and wheat, and soy and corn and eggs and peanuts) for three weeks in January to do a food allergy test. I'll be feeling the pain right there with you.

Tammie said...

i wear a lot of tee shirt bras too. i actually have a decent one that jay picked up at Target (of all places) a while back.

the more i think about it, the more im inclined to believe that Victorias Secret makes its money by pouncing on vulnerable women when they are feeling insecure about their body. i mean, no one i know actually loves their stuff, yet there is one in every mall in america.

sadly, i do not have a bloomingdales around here. i will keep FigLeaves in mind though.

your january is going to suck.

Tammie said...

oh and Jessie: just the thought of your knockers dragging across your clients cracks me up! :)

~ The Jolly Bee ~ said...

Bra shopping is a nightmare. If I find one I like, I try to buy as many as the store has in stock because I'll never find it again. And, I'm almost done with "The Lovely Bones." Wow -- it is a really good book. Sad, but good. I just wish I could keep my eyes open longer at night, though I have been getting up at 5 am and am able to squeeze in a few more chapters.

Karen said...

I'm a 32 B. Not easy to find that size, let alone without an inch of padding. I won't wear a padded bra or anything with infantile bows or showgirls-style beading. Almost all my bras are from the gap. Their sizing is consistent from style to style and from year to year; the bras are fairly well made; and you can get a really good deal during a sale.

Also, I wear a lot of camisoles with built in shelf bras.

Karen said...

http://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?cid=34525&vid=1&pid=651648&scid=651648002

That's my favorite style. Under $30!

Tammie said...

karen: ive actually had a lot of luck with gap bras in the past. the sizing has always been good and the styles are usually what im looking for. i just wish my local gap sold bras. when i have bought them, its been online and during sales.

but i agree, they are consistently good.

Lia said...

Ha ha! Knockers cracks me up. My two favorite bras were cheap. Very cheap. One was $10 from Target- Gilligan O'Malley. The other was about $20 from Kohl's and it's by Vanity Fair.

But my standards are pretty low. If they don't poke the crap out of me in my armpits and don't make me look worse than when I'm not wearing them, then I'm pretty happy.

I do like a tiny bit of padding, though. Not the kind that really makes your boobs look any bigger, but the kind that conceals the inevitable nipple hard-on while I'm at school. It's cold in my classroom!

I have been thinking about going to a real bra store, too. The one here in Austin is called Petticoat Fair, which makes it sound like it's for old ladies. Just google "bra store" and your city. I'm sure you'll find something nearby.

Now to address the weight thing. To lose three pounds during the holiday season is a big accomplishment. I put on five and I didn't think I was eating that poorly. I've decided I need to jump-start my weight-loss. I'm going to do 5 days; 5,000 calories; 5 hours of exercise; and 5 gallons of water. I know it's not healthy to eat less than 1200 calories a day, but what I've been doing isn't exactly healthy either. And I really NEED to see some quick progress to keep myself motivated. And I figured 5 days is my limit of true deprivation. I need a plan for the 6th day, though.

Oh, and thanks for the Christmastime for the Jews clip. I'd never seen it. So damn funny.

Tammie said...

karen: i like that one! it comes in some nice colors too. i love the grey.

jolly: im glad you're liking it. and i know what you mean, ive been reading it at night too and its hard to stay awake.

Tammie said...

lia: i HATE it when the underwire pokes me in the armpit. that is the worst!

i dont care who sees my nipple hard on, but then again i might feel differently if i was with thirty children all day.

let me know if your 5 plan works.

i will have to google bra stores and see what comes up.

Barefoot_Mommy said...

*LAUGHS* I have to say that my bra shopping standards are almost identical to Lia's. These comments were so fun to read.

What movie did you see on Christmas day? Me and the hubs went to see Sherlock Holmes. It was awesome

The Bean Trees was a great book I thought. I got it in a book swap a couple of years ago and I really enjoyed it. I found a copy of The Lovely Bones to borrow from a friend so I can participate in the book discussion. I'm so excited!

Tammie said...

barefoot: i wont hold it against you for not knowing that OF COURSE i saw It's Complicated, the alec baldwin movie.

kraftykash said...

Speaking from the big breasted Mama (thats me)- Have a professional at a store measure you. Its rather cozy and somewhat embarassing, but so worth it. Trust me...it helps. I can only shop at one store that is for big & beautiful. :D But I know most stores have women that do this.

I am a slave to Cheese. Good luck to you and Jay. I might even mention the idea to Kiley. hmmmmm We shall see.

R.H. Ducky said...

so many bra issues, so little time. shopping for the damned things is the worst.

but i personally don't mind the padding, i have some piercings and the padding hides that when i need it to be hidden. otherwise it would look like i have 6 nipples.

Tammie said...

HA! well i guess you need the padding then.

Not Your Aunt B said...

I will say I am a big fan of Victoria's Secret (they carry smaller sizes and have bras with little to no padding) and Maidenform. If you can find a Maidenform outlet, even better! Wait for their sales and you can get some regular, nice bras for less than $20!

And no cheese! Oh no!

R.H. Ducky said...

Yeah, when it's warm I have a tendency to wear just a sports bra and basketball shorts around the house. This provides Adam with hours of entertainment...lesbian alien boob jokes never get old to him

Barefoot_Mommy said...

Tammie... I am so ashamed that i forgot about the Alec Baldwin movie.

Tammie said...

ha ha ha ha. you're too funny. really dont sweat it.

im fully aware that he may not be as important to the rest of society as he is to me.

Tammie said...

kashoan: ill let you know about the cheese. it may be a miserable month for me.

DysFUNctional Mom said...

I am so sad that you're giving up cheese. If I did that, I'm not sure I'd have a reason to live.

Dani said...

Holy crap! I'm late to this party!

I start every new year on South Beach...the diet, not the actual beach. I consider it a type of cleanse. But I like Lia's 5's plan. Never heard of it. She must be holding out on me. ;)

You have inspired me to make a reading list. It will be a mix of should-reads and want-to-reads and the occasional vampire romance to even things out.

As far as bras go...I am so there with you. My favorite bras have underwire but no padding. They cost $10 from Target...but they NEVER have my size. I'm a 34 full C so I usually go for the D cup. I have a beige and black and they both are raggedy as can be. I don't even know if they do what they are intended to do at this point. So, with the few days I have before school starts again, I am on the hunt.

Victoria's Secret is that her bras suck. I have no idea where to start my search. And I'm with you: I can't stand to pay almost $100 for a stinking bra.

Let me know if you find anything decent. Me and my boobs would appreciate it.

hester said...

Gee Tammie...you really know how to get a conversation going. My bug bear (is that a phrase?) with bras is that occasionally when I was still breastfeeding I would buy a pretty bra with underwire (a no no when breastfeeding) in an effort to feel slightly sexy and then hate wearing it because the lace would be all scratchy. To celebrate non breastfeeding I recently bought a fantastic Lovable brand t shirt bra which is just about perfect - fits like a glove, an optional bit of soft lace on the straps, no potential nipple hard ons showing. So now I have a beige one, a black one and a cream one. $70 each though so luckily I chanced upon two on sale.

I reckon you should put out a blogging challenge for everyone to post a photo of their worst and best bra.

Tammie said...

wow! apparently we all have bra issues.

cyndy: it's only for a month so we'll see how it goes.

dani: its funny you mention Target because sometimes i go there and have great luck, other times not so much. i do think they have the styles i like (underwire, no padding) but i just have to hit the store at the right time to get my size. and your description of your own raggedy bras pretty much described the situation in my lingerie drawer.

hester: hmm. ive never heard of bug bear. maybe its an australia thing. :)

and thats a great idea. i would love to see pictures of gals worst bras. (does that make me weird?) i wish i hadnt already thrown out my crappy ones.