Tuesday, December 8, 2009

A New Beginning

After weighing the pros and cons, Jay and I decided that last Friday was to be the girl's final day of pre school. This decision was made after a lot of soul searching. On the one hand, the girl loved school and was doing great (and I loved my little bit of alone time.) On the other, mornings were needlessly stressful and afternoons were hectic and filled with a lot of yelling.The girl would come home from school wired and what little one-on-one time I had with her was unenjoyable. I felt as if we were both missing some great opportunities to bond.So, we are settling into a new rhythm around here. We've played, done some learning activities, and vegged out in front of the tv. As I type this out, she's in the other room playing independently, which I love. Already it feels as if the days are less stressful. I'm excited about our new routine. Unfortunately, the dog doesn't share my enthusiasm.

18 comments:

alisha said...

i'm glad you are liking your new routine so far! i see no need to push the pre-school thing if all it does is create a more stressful situation at home.

Daphne said...

Poor puppy... I applaud your choice to do what's right for you guys. Have fun! And relax...

kraftykash said...

Im glad that you figured that out about her preschool. Its a hard decision to make. Looks like you girls are having fun. Cherish the good and bad now, before you know it she will be in school all day. :D

Not Your Aunt B said...

So glad your morning has gone well! It is such a hard decision and everyone has to find what works for them. I'm lucky- preschool seems to wear mine out (are they jogging laps there or what?) and it's only Tue/Thur (when I work) so I still get time with them. We did have a daycare Miss A went to that was just so.much.work. Not worth it if you aren't enjoying it!

Lia said...

I'm jealous. I would love to stay home with my kids.

R.H. Ducky said...

glad to hear the days are less stressful and that you're excited about the new routine.

i personally hated preschool when i was a kid...so i'm happy for the girl ;)

IGEMOM said...

Bravo....I yanked my boys out of there too. Not because I think it's bad for every kid...but because I think their imaginations can be better developed here at home, with eachother, and with me. After all, in a blink of an eye, they'll be gone off to their own lives...and I'd like to think I'll have something to do with it!

Barefoot_Mommy said...

I think that's awesome. The B has only been in preschool for a few months and so far, I still think it's a good choice for us. But then... she only goes twice a week for half a day, so...

But anyway, looks like you guys are having fun!

Penny said...

Yay for you guys! I hope you continue to enjoy each other!

Karen said...

Between tuition and drop off /pick up insanity, I don't know how we'd manage preschool either.

How long do you think it will take before she dresses the poor doggy up in doll clothes?

Dani said...

I envy your routine. I am amazed at how happy me and the kids are when I don't have to go into work. And my patience level is no comparison.

The Mr. likes it as well. I'm not as tired and stressed and tense. And I bake more.

It's not easy work to stay at home with your kids...but it's hard work that I welcome doing.

Bridge said...

sounds good! it has been good for two of my kids, but one child doesmuch better not going.

sitting on the mood swing at the playground said...

Yay for less stresful days!

DysFUNctional Mom said...

Good luck with it. I didn't send mine to preschool, they stayed at home with me (except the youngest, not by choice). I taught them myself. They did extremely well in Kindergarten and are still doing well in 3rd, 8th, and 11th grades!

6p00d834531a7569e2 said...

You know what works. More importantly, you know what doesn't. Parenting is a bit like diagnostic medicine, eh?

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Love,
JEM

Tammie said...

kash: i know. i sorta felt like next year when she goes to kindergarten we are going to have to deal with this stuff, there is no reason to do it now.

lia: its got its ups and downs but mostly im thankful to the hubs for making the whole situation possible.

igemom: i agree. when she was in preschool most of the day she wasnt home enough to get "bored" and learn to entertain herself. now she has more time to relax and just be.

barefoot: yeah, the program she was in was a 5 day a week program and i think it was just too much.

karen: it was a hassle.
i dont think its occured to her to dress the dog yet. i pity the dog.

dani: i understand. the few times that ive worked since having kids, it wasnt easy. i wasnt the mom i wanted to be.

bridge: yeah, my son went and was awesome. i think this kid just needed something else.

jesse: so glad you commented. i had been wondering about you. :)

Crystal said...

Ack! I love that dog!

hester said...

You're a wise mum, Tammie. And selfless to give up some you time for a happier family life.